Hello New Parents,
Congratulations, and welcome to your new journey as a family through adoption! You will be celebrated by your friends and community for your new addition, and rightfully so. All children and families should be celebrated, and for so many parents through adoption, you worked especially hard and long to form your family. As adoptive parents already well into our journey, we would like to share an image of what family means to us, and to our children. This is an image that we have worked hard to cultivate and one that we celebrate openly. We hope you will take a few minutes to envision it along with us.
Adoption creates a new form of family, one that isn’t always portrayed correctly by the media, or even within your own circle of friends and family. A primary part of the adoption constellation, often left out or ignored, is the role of the birthmother. This is not always done with intent, but usually because people don’t know how to ask, or ask in a way that feels intrusive, or even, makes us new parents feel less entitled to our role. And yet, our children’s birthmothers are a critical piece of our family story. Your relationship with your child’s birthmother at this moment of forming your family is fresh and possibly very tender. We encourage you to nurture this budding relationship with the same love and care with which you nurture your new child. This may mean phone calls and texts, this may mean letters and updates sent to your lawyer or agency. We promise you that these updates are precious to both your child’s birthmother and to your child.
Birthmothers have a unique role in our society. One that is often both a halo and a condemnation. They are not encouraged to speak of their experience, and they are often told to carry on with their lives knowing they’ve made the right decision, and need to “move on.” The reality is, women post-placement are left with a void of support, a void which has often led to placing a child for adoption in the first place.
By supporting MPower Alliance's integrity initiative, you have an opportunity to stop these patterns of shame and neglect and fill this void. In so doing, you strengthen the bonds your child’s birthmother has with a community of women who have also made this unfathomable decision. You also strengthen your own relationship with the woman who placed her child, her faith, and her heart in your arms. Most importantly, you support your child’s connection to you and your commitment to support and celebrate every aspect of themselves, both roots and branches.
We believe strongly in the work MPower Alliance is doing because we have seen the effect on birthmothers when they have a community of other birthmothers who can empathize with their experiences and are supported with vital mental health services. MPower Alliance also provides critical grants that can help birthmothers regain control of their circumstances. As you can see from the information in this packet, MPower Alliance provides many services with aspirations to expand. MPower Alliance is the only organization in the U.S. dedicated to empowering birthmothers through these services and alliances/partnerships with other like-minded organizations.
Please consider supporting this work in honor of your child's birthmother. We humbly ask that you give what feels comfortable to your family. Any amount is appreciated, and sponsorship levels are suggested as part of the information in this packet. We welcome you to join our community and fully embrace the women who make adoption a reality!
Wishing your new family all the best,